Liderc wrote:that was never my intent. i don't know if you read my post or not. i am well equipped to talking with women
I think what a few replies (my own included) are getting at is, being a friend is pretty deadly, as she'll not easily convert that into being a mate. Seriously, i've been on every side with that, had it happen (and been frankly grossed out when a guy i thought of as a friend suddenly made a move, it was weird and just WRONG) so you need to find a way to get out of that.
So being able to really talk to women and click with them could actually be counter-productive?
Obviously 2 - 3 line chat on an internet forum is a terrible way to get or give help in detail, and it's easy to get the wrong end of the stick, but maybe try looking up some stuff online, even the book "The Rules" which is written for women advises NEVER falling into the friend-zone, and not being too easy and casual, or too helpful and matey, with someone you'd like to see you as a possible romatic partner.
If you have a thrift shop or charity shop, or just Amazon, you could probably pick up a copy dirt cheap and see if there's any advice in there you can adapt? Good luck.
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